CONTACTING YOUR INNER CHILD

Often times our problems stem from experiences in childhood. Those experiences are forgotten by our conscious minds but circumstances and events in our adult lives can trigger reactions within us. When we were children if we had negative experiences and we suppressed the natural emotional response (such as anger or sadness) it is then trapped but can rear up as an adult. It is surprising that some incidents we as an adult would consider as insignificant but they still affect the inner child and hold us back as an adult. For instance, perhaps when you were at primary school a teacher said “you’re tone deaf, you’ll never be able to sing,” and you believed them. Being told that is stored in your subconscious mind. Whenever you sing you’re voice gets wobbly and you feel like you’re just not good enough.

Inner child work was originally developed to deal with abuse issues. However, it’s use is highly effective for many kinds of incidents and experiences, however trivial it may seem to an adult. For instance, a person may not remember being told as a child “stop crying, don’t show emotion!” which causes an emotional blockage. The memory can be accessed through being in a trance state and then dealt with by releasing the blocked emotion.

If a child’s fundamental needs such as love, affection, freedom, play, food, companionship are not met during childhood then feelings are repressed and become inappropriate in the adult causing behaviour disorders. For instance, when a person is triggered and their reaction is excessive in comparison to the actual event that triggered it, it’s their inner child. Have you ever lashed out at someone and afterwards thought, “wow where did that come from?”

When the inner child is made safe, secure and feels loved then the magical child emerges who is — playful, fun, spontaneous, full of wonder and magic. This is the part of the child who has never been wounded or damaged.

BEFORE THE SESSION

It is important to be able to relax and let go of mind chatter. If you find yourself saying negative comments like “this is rubbish, it’ll never work” then ask your mind to be quiet, you could say to yourself, “thank you, be quiet now”. Then take a big cleansing breath and connect with your heart by putting your hands there. This might sound strange but it really works. It helps you to just notice the words, you don’t have to believe them! Since practising this technique my life has become so much clearer as I don’t listen to the constant negative voices, I feel a lot more peaceful.

WHAT IS THE EGO?

The ego helps us on a day to day basis navigating the world. For instance, helping us with functional aspects of our life like remembering the pay the bills. It is in fact necessary to have an ego in order to keep our bodies safe and operate in the world. The problem is that the ego takes over our emotions and makes judgements.

The ego also identifies with our wounded “Inner Child”. Therefore, recognise that this is a wounded part of you. Love it like the child that it is and in time you may be able to laugh at the silly comments the ego makes, like “you’re so stupid” and reassure yourself that you’re not! Remember it was probably your parents or teachers that told you this as a child. Take control and assume the proper relationship with your ego; children do not drive – they are passengers who comment and may influence your choices.

INTER-LIFE REGRESSION

In exploring the inter-life we come to understand the great plan of your soul’s evolution. How we work with our soul group, meet our spiritual guides or get advice about a situation in this life.

This can take us on a journey of discovery to find out:

• What are the main things I decided to learn in this lifetime?
• What is my purpose in this life?
• Why did I choose this body?
• Why did I choose these parents, friends, life partners?
• What do I have to learn from certain events that have happened in my life?
• What do I have to learn from certain illnesses?
• What do I have to learn in the relationships I have?

Many of us often carry negative feelings toward oneself or others who have hurt us in the past. When regressing back to the inter-life it is possible to receive a greater understanding of why some people came in our life and did the things they did to us. We actually may even learn that it was part of our soul contract so that we could learn something specific, or perhaps that it was linked with a karmic issue. Consequently, by finding out the reason we often forgive them much easier. What did I need to learn? Why did I need to gain strength to stand up for myself?